Why is Divorce So Common in Today’s Society?
Unfortunately, divorce is a prevalent occurrence in contemporary culture. Each day, individuals apply for divorce at their neighborhood courthouse, but why? Why do individuals divorce? Is it possible to avoid it? There is an abundance of study on why people file for divorce, and a divorce lawyer has encountered a variety of those causes.
We have all heard that the divorce rate in the United States is 50%, and this statistic appears to be true in general. The American Psychological Association reports that "about 40% to 50% of married couples in the United States divorce." The divorce rate is even higher in subsequent marriages." The CDC reports that the divorce rate was 2.9 per 1,000 total population in 2017. Arizona actually has a little higher rate than the rest of the country. According to the CDC, the divorce rate in 2017 was 3.5 divorces per 1,000 total population in the area.
Why is Divorce So Common in Contemporary Society?One of the reasons divorce is so prevalent is precisely that it is so prevalent. Divorce does not carry the shame it formerly did. You probably know lots of people who have been divorced at least once, or you yourself may be a divorced child. It's virtually the "everyone does it" mentality that contributes to the phenomenon's popularity. It's a daily occurrence in the news, and it's a recurring theme in the majority of television dramas and films.
The term "popular" divorce, almost trivializes its impact on individuals and families and makes it appear trendy. That is not my perception of divorce. Divorce, without a doubt, has a profound effect on couples, children, and extended families. Divorce, on the other hand, is not necessarily a horrible thing, and when handled appropriately, the impact of families can be minimized.
Historically, divorce was more difficult to acquire, both legally and socially. Individuals were virtually trapped in dysfunctional relationships regardless of their personal satisfaction at the time. Being in an unhealthy relationship is not a healthy way to live; if someone wishes to leave the relationship, they should be able to do so.
Why Do Individuals Divorce?There is a wealth of research available on the internet regarding the reasons for divorce. According to an article on HuffPost, "communication problems emerged as the number one reason marriages fail" in a poll done by the author. Additionally, the article identifies additional reasons why people apply for divorce, including the following:
- Gaining admission for the incorrect reasons
- A lack of personal identity
- Being disoriented by roles
- Lack of agreement on a defined definition of success
- The intimacy vanishes
- Unfulfilled expectations
- Finances
- Being disconnected
- Distinct priorities and pursuits
- Incapacity to resolve disputes
Numerous people cite multiple of the following reasons for divorcing, as when a complaint originates in one area, it frequently results in problems in another. There are a few additional factors worth highlighting that were not mentioned in the text.
Perhaps the most egregious reason for divorce is if one of the spouses has been a victim of abuse in some manner. Domestic violence or substance addiction might be considered abuse. Our firm represents a large number of victims of domestic violence. Domestic abuse manifests itself in more than bruises and shattered bones. Many domestic violence victims might not initially encounter physical aggression from their spouses. Often, it begins with an attempt to exert some type of control over the spouse, such as financial control or control over who the spouse spends time with.
Another reason people seek a divorce is due to substance misuse. Substance misuse is frequently not present or known at the start of a relationship but worsens over time. A spouse who struggles with substance abuse can risk the couple's financial resources as well as the children's safety.
When substance misuse is uncovered, some people promptly file for divorce. Others delay filing for divorce and instead attempt to resolve the issue with their spouse. Appropriate treatment is frequently successful, and individuals are relieved of the need to file for divorce. However, when treatment is unsuccessful, people gradually tire of the emotional burden involved with having a partner with a substance abuse problem.
When they reach their maximum of tolerable stress, they frequently choose to divorce. Domestic violence perpetrators frequently control the purse strings and restrict the other spouse's access to financial resources. Domestic violence perpetrators frequently exert control over who the other spouse has access to or spends time with. They will restrict the spouse's contact with family and friends. Domestic violence, in any form, is intolerable, and victims require a path out. Divorce is one option available to the victim.
Occasionally, individuals find themselves married as a result of being "expected" to do so. I frequently encounter this "that was what I was required to do" mentality in contemporary society. You mature, meet a significant other, attend college, and marry. This is what people are supposed to accomplish as they mature in today's culture. Unfortunately, this occasionally results in people entering weddings without fully comprehending what marriage implies or the difficulties that come with it.
Marriages on the SpotWhen people begin dating and fall in love for the first time, they experience ecstasy. Occasionally, people marry during this stage of their relationship before they truly understand the other person. This is frequently the case with younger people as well as those in their second or third marriages. People are in love and seek to strengthen their bonds.
Occasionally, these impetuous marriages work out, and occasionally, they do not. When they do not work out, people often discover aspects of their spouse that they dislike or discover that their personalities do not mesh well, which is why they file for divorce. Fortunately, these marriages are frequently brief and relatively simple to break, as there are rarely large obligations or assets to distribute. In other instances, an annulment may even be justified if the parties can meet the legal conditions.
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